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Listening to Frank Ocean...

Posted on May 1, 2012 at 3:45 PM Comments comments (0)


It is now 11:52 pm. Though this will be published later, I wanted to make sure I had the time just right. I met someone who touched my existence in a different way. I was able to have a real conversation with a Black man today. I had no intentions, and he didn’t either. Honestly, I would rather end this article, before writing it. No, we did not exchange words of, “I will see you again,” or “I hope to see you again,” or… “Call me.”


I have been wondering if there was a reason why I felt that I could not have a conversation with a man of his caliber. Yes, finally someone that I met was on my level and was younger than me (by 3 years to be exact). He had a degree, owned a home,and had a couple of kids.


I have always wanted to be with someone who intelligent, successful, proud, spiritual, and owned up to their faults. I believe it is important to engage the later in order to have the rest in a positive light. I have been through a lot at 35—I refuse to settle. I am going far in life. I am still making mistakes too, and loving it in my thirties.


I am always writing about many things, (FYI) the end result always will be about the proposed subject matter in the first paragraph. I listened to his voice over my cell phone, while he was getting directions from me to get to the cafe. Nothing came to me. It was a business meeting. I hung up the phone. I began thinking…I had just finished reading Resurrecting Mingus, that shyt got me. I have to read the last page again. …They touched hands, and he hoped that she would not leave him…


The concept of human interaction is something else. I learned about it through my cultural anthropology class in undergrad. Once he sat down, I continued to drink my coffee, in the hot sun. The conversation was engaging to say the least. I could have talked for hours. We never talked about business until the end. He probed-- first. I came back second. I really don’t think it is important to give a transcription of what the conversation was about in its entirety.


In like manner, we touched on subjects in regard to politics, regions in the United States, dating, and so forth. I thought about some of the questions that were asked of me. And, I had to realize at that moment that age really doesn’t matter. I want a successful man in my life; one that can have a conversation with me about anything. Regardless of the subject matter, he is cool with talking. I expect the best from here on out.


I say that I expect the best from here on out, because you have to anticipate this from your human interactions. I am ready to be intellectual on a whole new level with a smile. I felt so giddy after meeting with this person. He was kind, and very attentive. I reciprocated the interaction. No, this was not my first time meeting an African-American man who had common sense, but this experience was different. I met an African American man that embraced his identity and owned it.


I continue to listen to Frank Ocean, while writing this article. The track that won’t leave my mind is, “There Will Be Tears,” turn it up when you listen to it. In order to understand Ocean’s music, you have to been on some real...I want to really be honest with myself right now type stuff.


The song represents to me a moment in time where you can dream, though people leave your side; love is still there. I have had abandonment issues in my life and I believe that I am now conquering them. God created me to love. And, it feels so good when it comes back and you can see it.


Love does not have to have an attachment to it. –It can be a touch, a smell, a look, or a moment in time. This is what I had at the café; I actually got to see what Dr.Martin Luther King wanted for the entire race. I saw a Black man willing to listen to a Black woman and listen to her ideals and still own his views—without an argument or negative feedback.


Now that is a real education in music.  


And, there were no beats or melodies outside the café….


Listen to Frank Ocean


~sofly

 

 


kYm & Roxy: Chilling @ Te House of Tea

Posted on April 28, 2012 at 1:00 AM Comments comments (0)

I believe that I posted that I have a puppy. Her name is Roxy. It is so funny when you get a pet, because they start to adopt some of your human traits. Yes, she is fiesty. We were Te House of Tea in Houston, Texas. I was able to get an outside photobooth experience.


Check out All Occasions Photo-Booth And Printing--when you are in Houston.


~sofly

Thirty Things That Women Should Know @ 30-Something

Posted on April 25, 2012 at 9:00 PM Comments comments (0)


I just read about this new book that was published today entitled, Thirty Things Every Woman Should Have and Should KNow By The Times She's 30--and I like it.


A list was posted on a newsite that I frequent about what a woman should know/have at thirty-something. When I looked at the list, I was amazed that I had accomplished a lot of what was on the list. However, I still have a little bit to go in regards to my journey in my thirties.


Check out an excerpt of the list below. If you are interested in checking out the entire list read it here.


*This would be a great purchase too.


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By 30, you should have ...


1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.

2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.

3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.

4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.

5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.


By 30, you should know ...


1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.

2. How you feel about having kids.

3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.

4. When to try harder and when to walk away.

5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.

 


 

~sofly

Oprah Winfrey Professes: "I am a Christian."

Posted on April 24, 2012 at 10:50 PM Comments comments (0)

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I had to post this video. I really do like Oprah Winfrey. As of late she  has been sharing a lot of things that people thought that they knew about her life and then some. Oprah's religion/spirituality has always been in question. I have always begged to differ with others opinions.

How can a woman from Mississippi, born and raised  by her Black grandmother, and raped by a family member-not know or believe in God? I just can't concieve someone not knowing of his grace, mercy, and presence. Yes, he does have many names too. I call him Jehovah sometimes....

I wanted to share this quote with you. I believe that at thirty-five I totally relate with Oprah Winfrey. I believe that GOD does want you to have some knowledge in regard to what religion, faith, and spirituality is all about and how they coincide And, I think she understands it for her own life. 

Oprah Winfrey's Quote: “I am not talking about religion. I am a Christian. That is my faith. I’m not asking you to be a Christian. If you wanna be one, I can show you how. But it is not required. I have respect for all faiths….My favorite Bible verse, because I am a Christian, is Acts 17:28. It says, ‘In God I live, and move, and have my being.” 



~sofly

Black Natural Hair Care Tips: Take Notes!

Posted on April 23, 2012 at 1:15 AM Comments comments (0)


s/o to Deidre Tubbs (Natural Hair Care Specialist)! I just opened my mail and she sent me a FREE natural hair care/body package. It includes the following: Unrefined Shea Butter, Organic Life Whipped Shea Butter, Liquid Shea Soap & Shampoo, and Organic Life Whipped Shea Butter for the body.


If you are interested in these products email her at: deidretubbs@organiclifeproducts.com

Online: www.organiclifeproducts.com


~sofly


DONATE: RAW Natural Born Artists Exhibition

Posted on April 19, 2012 at 6:35 PM Comments comments (0)


My work has been accepted in to the RAW: natural born artists BLEND Exhibition in Houston, Texas. The event will be held on May 10, 2012 @ Numbers. I am in need of individuals to purchase tickets (20 to be exact) to be eligible to show my work in the exhibition. In addition, funds left over from ticket sales will help me purchase supplies to hang the work up at the show.


Tickets are $10.00 per person. All artists participating in the show have to sell tickets.


Once you have decided to donate funds, your money will be sent to RAW Artists--directly. Your ticket will be emailed to you. If you are not able to come to the show and still want to help me in this artistic mission, donate your ticket to someone.


*I am willing to deliver the tickets to individuals who might want to attend but do not have the funding at this time (in Houston, Texas). 


*All donations are appreciated.


Thank you for considering reading this art project funding request. And, I hope to see you there.


Purchase a ticket here.


View My Artwork here.


~sofly

 


Born Pretty: FREEBIE

Posted on April 19, 2012 at 12:45 AM Comments comments (1)

*soflyFREEBIE


If you are interested in getting a FREE ring, check out: Born Pretty.


Sign up via FACEBOOK and Like there page. Then repost this link and wait for the code to debut later today. 


http://tinyurl.com/7nlo5jn



~sofly

Every Woman is B E A U T I F U L: OWN IT!

Posted on April 18, 2012 at 1:30 AM Comments comments (0)


I saw this picture on Facebook earlier this morning. And, it made me think about all of the women in the world. We always look in the mirror and find something wrong with the way we look. When in actuality, we have been made perfectly by GOD.


I believe that you should all of your curves, straight lines, and whatever else you might have. The key is to have your own style and change what you don't like.


Lesson: OWN YOU!


~sofly

I Opened My Mail Box...

Posted on April 11, 2012 at 5:35 PM Comments comments (0)


I got this in the mail yesterday.


~sofly

My Aha Moment with Oprah Winfrey...

Posted on April 1, 2012 at 4:10 PM Comments comments (0)


My interview on the Oprah Winfrey Lifeclass Show finally aired last week. Check it out and let me know what you think. I was too excited to share my 17 seconds with the world. 

Trust me, it is on my resume. :)





~sofly

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